The beliefs you hold about life and the way you see yourself create a projection that sits like a cloak around you. It is this that tells people how to treat you.
Penny grew up in an affluent environment with all the privileges this brings but she fell apart when her parents’ marriage started to break down when she was fifteen. She spent very little time at home choosing instead to sleep rough on the sofa of whoever would take her in. She turned to drink, drugs and sex in an attempt to find security and to numb the pain she was feeling. She picked a certain type of guy, one who would knock her around and generally treat her with contempt.
Now several years later she has met a guy who treats her well. He pays her compliments, buys her little gifts and seems to adore the ground she walks on. And do you know how she feels? She feels uncomfortable. She isn’t sure how she feels about him and keeps him at a safe distance emotionally. Why? Because this guy is behaving in a way that is different from all the other men she has been with. She is used to being treated badly, and in some sad way, she questions this new guy’s motives. She tells him to ‘shut up’ when he tells her she is beautiful. She is embarrassed when he pays her a compliment.
Penny doesn’t like herself. She feels ugly and worthless and it’s exactly this she projects to the world. No wonder the men she has been with don’t treat her with respect. She has none for herself. If she does not learn to give herself the respect she deserves she will lose this wonderful man and continue to choose guys who show her the lack of respect she has for herself.
There is a direct correlation between the view you have of yourself and the way people treat you. You attract to yourself people who mirror, with their behaviour, the image you have of yourself. How people treat you will be a reflection of how you treat yourself. What we put out in life is exactly what we get back.
Have a look at your life. How do people treat you? Are you living the life you feel you deserve?