As Jennifer started to come to terms with the truth about her relationship with Michael, she also recognised that perhaps she had treated him like one of the kids. In some ways, by providing so fully on the domestic front, maybe she had reminded him of his mother. In amongst the day-to-day roles they each played they had lost the fun, the chemistry and the intimacy they had once shared. Her role as mother and homemaker had left little room for ‘wife and lover’. She recognised, too, that Michael had tried to keep the romance alive by suggesting things they could do together without the children, but it had always seemed too difficult to get someone to watch the kids. She could see that she could have done more to ensure Michael felt like a man in their relationship rather than just a family member.
Jennifer was sad as realised it wouldn’t have taken a lot of effort for each of them to keep their romance alive, that things could have been so different for their family if she had remembered to be a woman first and a mother second.
Somewhere in amongst all the domesticity she had lost herself and as a result, her husband. She had however, gained a new, more balanced perspective about the death of her marriage and she was able to let Michael go without guilt or anger. By taking responsibility for her part in the breakdown of their relationship she was able to free herself from the anger and resentment she had been feeling when Michael betrayed her. She understood he was making a choice for himself and her reaction or response to that was up to her. She chose to accept the changes and started on the road to building a new life for herself.