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5 Signs You Might Be Hiding From Life

Written by Allanah Hunt

Let’s face it – life can seem terrifying at times!

Its much easier to stay where you’re comfortable, to continue living life as you know it confident in the knowledge that you are safe and secure.

But there’s a problem with that plan.

Things always change.

Even if you focus on keeping the status quo with every ounce of energy you have, life has a way of throwing you a curve ball when you least expect it.

You may lose your job due to company or economic changes.

You may have an accident which will alter the course of your life.

Your children will leave home.

Someone you love will die.

You will age …

Whether you like it or not, the course of your life will take many twists and turns. How you navigate the journey will determine how much joy, how much happiness and how much contentment you find along the way.

You cannot hide from change. You can try. You can cry but in the end no matter how determinedly you hang on to what you think you know about your life, it no longer exists.

The goal posts have shifted and until you learn to alter the direction of your kick, you will keep missing. Missing someone, missing something …

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance – Alan Watts

You Are Afraid To Try Something New

I know someone who has always been a lover of life. He has lived in several places around the world, traveled and built a successful business in more than one country and yet for the past few years, he has been hiding from life. Having experienced some huge changes, he has become afraid to make choices, afraid that he will fail and so concerned about the chance of loss, that he has stopped ‘living’. Where once he was larger than life now he is hiding in the shadows. Anytime he is asked a question, his automatic answer is ‘NO’. He doesn’t even take the time to think about it …

What about you? What is your automatic answer to an opportunity?

Let’s say a friend suggested the two of you go to an adventure park and try out the new commando course where you would be climbing, walking a swing bridge and finishing with a zip line.

What if you were offered a job in a rival company which paid a better salary but you would need to take on more responsibility.

What would you say?

You Can’t Remember The Last Time You Felt Joy

Joy is a blissful feeling. It’s when everything feels right in the world, you smile, you laugh and within you it feels like bubbles are rising to the surface. You feel like you could burst with happiness. If you can’t remember the last time you felt like this then take a moment to look at a small child in a playground. They are free, fearless and excited. Once upon a time you were like this too.

Finding joy starts by focussing on things to be thankful for.

It starts when you enjoy the moment you are in rather than worrying about what might come.

Joy begins when you are just ‘being’ instead of constantly ‘doing’.

You Keep Your Opinions And Ideas To Yourself

Each of us has a unique perspective which is formed through our experiences. True progress and innovation comes from adding new perspectives and new ideas to existing understanding. If you are uncertain or doubt the value of your input, you may be denying others the chance to take a fresh approach.

Sometimes it’s the smallest nugget that has the highest value.

You Are Jealous Or Envious Of Others

When you are hiding from life, it often appears that others are doing so much better than you are. But if you take a closer look, you will discover that they have struggles, they have fears and they have difficulties too. The difference between them and you is that they are prepared to face their fear, to overcome their difficulties and to push beyond the boundaries of what they know and what is comfortable, to find the joy on the other side.

If they can do it … why can’t you?

You Hate Who You See In The Mirror

One of the clearest signs that you are hiding from life is that you don’t like the vision of yourself you see in the mirror. None of us are perfect, we each have ‘flaws’ and parts of ourselves we wish were smaller, bigger, taller, softer, firmer, flatter … but beyond the external appearance, is the true essence of who you are. I’m a firm believer that what you see on the outside is a reflection of how you feel about yourself on the inside.

Self-Confidence is your most attractive quality. How can anyone else see how great you are if you can’t see it yourself?

Life can be an exhilarating roller coaster ride or a nightmare horror house.

Change will happen whether you choose to hide from life or whether you choose to embrace it.

Is it time to come out from the shadows and start living?

About the author

Allanah Hunt

Allanah Hunt is an author and founder of Power And Freedom where she works to encourage people to reclaim their personal power and create a life of freedom and joy. Your past does not dictate your future unless you allow it to!

“It is only as you take responsibility for your life that you discover just how powerful you truly are” – Allanah Hunt

9 Comments

  • Excellent article on a topic most of us can relate to. Fear is the most limiting emotion we can have in our lives. Fear breeds anxiety and become a factor in depression.
    For many years i was affected by fear, it limited my opportunities for success, for happiness.
    I had signifcant change in fortunes when quite by chance i went to a Yoga class. It was the beginning of a new life for me, Yoga gave me self belief and meditation gave mea quiet mind. The rapport that i built her with was significant change the universe brought into my life.
    Through Yoga i learnt that the adversity i had been through in my childhood and teenage years was a lesson that made me the man i am now, My brain was reset, and mind was trained to have right thoughts. i became a confident and fearless person, accepting that life will always have light and dark, but no matter which it was, expect it, embrace it, let life flow through that part of your life, life will always have twists and turns, the levels of highs and lows will vary, if we accept and expect that this is the case the balance in life will be maintained.
    Life is made up of choices, the choices are ours to make, they will shape our lives, all of us are unique, its that uniquness that makes us all different, trust your instincts, live your life your way,your life is your own.
    A vary informative well written article, it was thought provoking and inspiring. Your face book post are the same, i love to read them as they reinforce my focus on living life my way. Thank you.

  • That’s part of the problem for many Allanah, change isn’t optional. It’s going to happen because is’s natures way…now whether we choose to use it for growth and good is in our hands.

    Good reminders for us all.

  • Allanah, I really love the suggestion to stay in the moment and find your joy. I think we could all benefit from that special child-like energy at times. I also resonated with what you said about jealous and envy. Sometimes, it can be quite subtle – this feeling like it’s not working for me, but it’s working for everyone else. Thanks for the reminder to watch for this! I’m doing something new and different now and that feels good!

    • Thank you Sandra. That jealousy and envy creeps up and catches us unaware sometimes. Always a good reminder to take note of what our feelings are telling us 🙂

  • Thanks for sharing these Allanah. When you see them written in black and white like this, they’re really stark, and yet I’m sure all of us do them without even really noticing at one time or the other. Great reminders.

  • Love this and I relate to that hiding- sometimes we just feel we are not up to it and hiding takes over. Embracing life brings joy and vreativity to the fore xxoo

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